盲目的爱情让婚姻更幸福？.docx

盲目的爱情让婚姻更幸福？盲目的爱情让婚姻更幸福？Theysaythatloveisblind.Andthat'sprobablyforthebest.Becauseanewstudyshowsthatpeoplewhogreatlyidealizetheirspouseshavethehappiestmarriages.Forthefirstfewyears,anyway.TheresearchappearsinthejournalPsychologicalScience.Mostpeoplementallyaccentuatetheirpartners'betterqualities.Atleastduringcourtship.Ifwedidn't,whowouldevertietheknot?Butsomefolkstakethesefantasiestocartoonishextremes.Now,you'dthinksuchpeopleareinforarudeawakeningwhentheyrealizetheymarriedarealhumanbeingwithrealhumanflaws.Butthisnewstudysaysitisn'tso.Researchersrecruited222newlywedcouplesandfollowedthemforthreeyears.Theyperiodicallyaskedthesubjectstodescribethemselvesandtheirpartners.Andtheyfoundthatpeoplewhomaintainedthemostunrealisticviewoftheirbetterhalveswereactuallythemostsatisfiedwiththeirmarriage.Whenthehoneymoon'sover,itcouldbethatthosewhoidealizetheirmatesmaybemorelikelytoforgivethetransgressionsthatarisewhenpeoplearenolongerontheirbestbehavior.Whateverthereason,thestudysuggeststhatcouplesshouldexchangerings-androse-coloredglasses.人说爱情是盲目的--很可能这样最好。一项新的研究表明，将配偶大大理想化的人拥有最幸福的婚姻--至少最初几年是这样。该项研究发表于《心理科学》期刊。很多人总是更多地看到伴侣身上的优点--至少在求爱期。要不是这样，又怎会结此良缘?但有些人将此幻想过分夸大了。你可能会想，当这些人意识到他们嫁(娶)的也不过是一个有着各种缺点的普通人时，一定会恍然惊醒。相反，这项研究表明其实并非如此。研究者招募了222对新婚夫妇，做了3年的跟踪研究。他们定期让研究对象描述自己及其伴侣。他们发现，那些一直对自己"更好的另一半"持有过于理想看法的人，最满意自己的婚姻。当蜜月结束，人不再处于最佳表现状态时，那些将配偶理想化的人更可能原谅配偶后来出现的种种"不如人意"。不论原因为何，该研究结果都表明，新人在交换戒指时，也交换下"玫瑰色的眼镜"吧。http:///